There is a wise saying in the wisdom literature of the bible.
“Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
We are far to loose with our tongues. And we think that we are ok because we don’t cuss and we don’t say nasty things to people. But we do other things that are just as wrong and just as hurtful and truthfully are more damaging.
I have heard the same story told by more than one person of how their parents were accustomed to coming home after church speaking poorly of people at church, or the elders or deacons, or how they didn’t like what the pastor said or what he was doing.
Us church people are really good at being nice to someone’s face and then running them through the mud when we are with our family or friends. This brings division in the church, breeds ill will, and teaches those hearing us (our spouses, kids, friends, babysitters, etc.) that the church is a bunch of fake, sinful, lairs, cheats, etc.
It isn’t that what we are saying isn’t as true as could be. However the issue is that, we are gossiping, or criticizing, or speaking poorly often simply because we enjoy doing those things.
There is a place, time, and proper manner with which to express disagreement, discontentment, and concern but that is never a time when we are flippantly flying off at the mouth.
I couldn’t possibly cover all the instances of how our speech can be sinful or have negative impact in one blog post. But let me leave you with this:
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. – Eph, 4:29
If your speech isn’t helpful, building up or leading those that hear you to more GRACE. Then Shut Your Mouth.